19 July 2015

Despicable Acts

Jesus Is Watching 

My Dream

I was sitting in the balcony of a political/government building. There was an election going on. A minister that I know was there with a friend (another minister). They began making me feel like I shouldn't be there. They asked me, "Why are you here?" I said, "I want to make a difference in peoples lives." I reassured them I didn't want to start a church or step on anyone's toes or get in anyone's lane. I just want to DO MINISTRY and help people. 

After talking with these ministers, I felt sad because of how they treated me. I ended up in a room in the basement of this government building. I was on the floor in a corner hidden away listening to music. The two ministers came down the stairs naked. They were laughing, playing and giving each other fellatio. They were having the time of their lives. I made it known that I was there. They were very shocked and surprised to see me because they were exposed. The minister I know said, "This is not good."

We were back upstairs on the balcony and the two ministers were watching the election. I felt afraid that if I didn't do what they say or answer them the way they wanted me to, they would kill me. The Minister that I know was now alone. There was a woman there who had on a white suit with blue trim. Her husband won the election. She was excited and started crying. Someone asked her, why are you so happy? Excitedly she said, "This is me and my husband's dream.  We just want to do what's right and make a difference." I was so happy for her. When I looked around, the minister I knew was gone.

(Disclaimer: This post is not about every minister/leader)

Dream Interpretation:

This dream has so much meaning and depth that I don't have the space to thoroughly explain it. The gist of this dream is about the despicable acts that take place amongst leadership within the body of Christ. It also shows their treatment of those who they feel are not their equal or who are not in agreement with what they do. It's not necessarily about the homosexual act that took place in this dream although that is prevalent within the body of Christ. It's about ministers/leaders who are committing sinful acts that go completely against Gods word. In addition, these types of leaders are connected with other leaders of the same mindset, therefore they do favors for one another. The dream also expresses Jesus' desire for the elect (true followers of Christ) to "Do what is right and make a difference," and we will!

Bad Leadership:

The church is lacking true ministry because leadership has taken the focus off of Christ. The focus is on fame, riches, and having a large congregation to support these goals. Leadership ranges from the Bishop all the way down to the least of servants. I believe one of the despicable acts that some leaders engage in is manipulation. They twist the word of God for their benefit and cause believers to be bound and chained by religion and tradition. Because of their title, they make you feel you can not question their teachings or why things are being done a certain way, and you dare not confront them on something they did that was questionable to you and others.

They preach that you have to "Obey your leaders and submit to their authority" (Hebrews 13:17). They forget to mention that Hebrews 13:7 says, "Remember those who led you, who spoke the word of God to you; and considering the result of their conduct, imitate their faith." Basically, if they've lived a good example of Christ and you can see the fruit in their lives then follow God's word and submit to their authority.

Take Action:

I pray that the eyes of those sitting under this kind of leadership will be opened. If you are experiencing this, I hope that you will pray for your leader but also take action as the Lord leads you. The bible says, "Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it" (James 4:17). If you are aware of your leaders committing sinful acts and you do nothing, you are just as guilty. If you are not comfortable with addressing your leadership, pray for them. If you don't see change and it becomes to much, you may need to seek out a new church home.

If you feel your leadership needs to be addressed, be very very prayerful about it. The bible says you and two or three witnesses have the right to address your leader. It MUST be done in love and with a RIGHT spirit. You and the other witnesses need to live clean respectable lives. First get rid of the log in your own eye, then deal with the speck in your Leaders eye. Here's God's instructions for addressing leaders who are walking in sin, 1 TIMOTHY 5:19-21.

If you are a minister/leader engaging in despicable acts, God sees you and He is exposing your secrets to his elect. Repent and do ministry the way God intended you to.

Good Leadership/Ministry:

What is ministry? Ministry is serving and meeting the needs of others. Good leaders make discipleship a priority. It's important to raise up mature leaders in Christ and send them out to disciple others. Ministry is done in various capacities. Jesus said, "Feed the hungry, clothe the naked, spend time with those who are imprisoned. True ministry is about setting people free through Jesus Christ.

The woman in the dream symbolized the bride of Christ (the church) and her husband was Jesus. You and I are the church. We must do what is right and make a difference in the world. This blog is my ministry. I desire to help people understand Gods truth. Jesus said, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." We are the workers. Let's get busy for Christ! check out Life With Purpose.


01 March 2015

Why Carmen Went Natural

"I Am Not My hair"

Carmen where are you from and what do you do? I am a wife and mother of four from Boston, MA. Currently, I’m an admin professional, aspiring to become a Family Law Attorney and/or motivational speaker for women.

How long have you been Natural? I've been natural for 1.5 years. My two-year anniversary will be in April of this year. The above picture shows my natural hair growth.

What made you decide to go natural? A few years ago I was diagnosed with C.C.C.A. (Central Centrifugal Cicatricial alopecia) – often referred to as “hot comb” alopecia. The thought of having to cope with what the dermatologist identified as “permanent” hair loss was simply unbearable. All the young and mature women I’ve known to experience hair loss due to alopecia were able to successfully grow their hair back with the use of treatments and/or topical hair products. It was difficult for me to embrace the fact that my “Crown of Glory” would NEVER grow back. Apart from fighting back tears, condemning myself, and even pointing the finger at my stylist, I decided to believe God for a miracle while making smarter choices involving my hair care and maintenance. Therefore, my natural hair journey began with eliminating chemicals and heat styling!
Relaxer Days

Did you transition or big chop and why? The “big chop” method was not ideal due to my hair loss so I opted for the transition method of reverting back to my natural hair tresses. I transitioned for one year then went to a professional to have the permed ends cut off. 
Transition Styles

Describe your hair texture? I have a combination of 4B/4C hair. (Mostly 4C)
My Hair Texture

How do you handle shrinkage? At first dealing with shrinkage was not an easy task because I felt like my hair appeared extremely tight, matted and dry. Once I learned which products worked best for my hair type I realized that it wasn't so bad after all. In fact I learned that my shrunken hair retained a much better shape, volume and coil pattern. I’ve learned to embrace it!
Current Style

What is your favorite hairstyle? My favorite style is the twist-out - mainly because it's the only style I've managed to perfect! And when my twist outs don't come out as expected I could always pull it up into a high puff or Mohawk style!
Twist Out

High Puff

What is your hair regimen and what products do you use? I try to co-wash and deep condition my hair every two weeks and protein treat my hair every six weeks. I style my hair in a way that requires less manipulation as possible and does not require me to have to re-twist or restyle my hair every night. My twist out styles usually last me a week or two depending on how defined my twists are. Occasionally, I opt for protective styles such as medium box, senegalese braids, kinky twist, faux buns, and flat twist goddess braid styles. 

The products I use are Mixed Chicks deep conditioner for co-washing my hair, Cantu Shea Butter as a leave-in conditioner, a mixture of coconut, jojoba and almond oil to seal in moisture and style my hair. I'll also use Shea Moisture curl & Style Milk if necessary. The products I use as a protein treatment are from the Apogee product line.
Products I Use

What are the benefits of going natural for you? The benefits to reverting back to my natural hair texture are: 

  • Versatility
  • Better hair health
  • The fact that I can do it myself and save money

07 December 2014

Teach Your Children The Commands of God

"And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up." 
- Deuteronomy 6:6-7 

In the scripture above, the Lord was speaking to the Israelites as they were preparing to enter the Promised Land. The nations surrounding the Israelites were wicked and perverse. God wanted his people to wholeheartedly follow His commands. He admonished the adults to repetitively instill the commandments into the children day and night. I believe He wanted to establish in their hearts what was right and what was wrong so they would not participate in the wickedness that surrounded them. If they obeyed the Lord, they would enjoy a long life. We the people of God should take note and incorporate this practice into our daily lives as well. 

As a parent, grandparent or guardian, you have the awesome responsibility of introducing your children to God and teaching them Gods ways; from the bible. We are living in a world where greed, rebellion, hatred, perverse living and so much more are quickly becoming the norm and have influenced the lives of many people we know and love. As our country continues to remove anything that has to do with God from it, we are experiencing the presence of wickedness like never before and it's greatly affecting our children.

My Kiddos

My children are eight and ten years of age. When they were in my womb, and when they were born, prophetic words about their purpose were spoken to my husband and I. I'm sure many of you can identify and have experienced the same thing or something similar regarding your own children. Satan's job is to quickly rob you and your children of purpose and trust me, he WONT BE NICE while trying. The enemy wants to stop every believers' (Christians) purpose in the earth so he (satan) can have his wicked way in the world without interruption. When we move in our purpose, we disrupt the plans of the enemy. Our children have purpose NOW in their own generation to show other children (who may be lost, hurting, etc.) that there is a real God they can call on even in their young age. 

The World We Live In

Children are innocent and their minds are pure. They don’t know ANYTHING about life until you teach them. If you want your child to be a loving God-fearing person who lives righteously – teach them Gods word. It will help them understand right from wrong and prepare them for the realities of this crummy world that they live in. Over the summer, while in camp my children were exposed to inappropriate discussions and acts from other children. Such is life, right? I've been teaching my children the word of God since they were very young and now they're seeing and hearing what the world is talking about. I'm actually glad they had that experience because that is the world we live in. So, as a family we sat down and openly discussed different topics and went to the bible to explain what God says about those different topics. We discussed what's appropriate and what's not. No question is off limits in my home. My kids are far from perfect but my husband and I try our best to teach them the ways of God. Remember, if you don’t teach your kids God’s commands the people of the world will waste no time teaching them theirs.

Be Their Example
As guardians we have to live what we preach and teach our children. Do as I say not as I do, doesn't work! We are the example they are looking at. If you are consistently inconsistent they will doubt what you're teaching them. No parent is perfect but when you mess up, try not to make the same mistake over and over again. Children are easily influenced by the things they see and hear. My husband and I monitor and limit what our kids watch on TV. We monitor and limit the kinds of video games they play. We monitor the sites they visit on the computer, and they are not allowed to watch YouTube videos unless they ask so we can screen it first. YouTube is filled with wonderful videos as well as disturbing videos. One disturbing video leads to another and before you know it, you're child has just been introduced to something that could become very damaging to their life. 

I'm not saying to keep your child in a bubble so that they never experience the real world. As a guardian your job is to protect your children from the snares of the enemy. My kids are far from perfect, they're children and from time to time they say and do things that disappoint me. Because they have purpose they've been spiritually attacked which caused me to pray and fast on their behalf. But my husband who is rarely moved by circumstances reminds me we are to teach, pray and correct and God will do the rest. The bible says, “Train up a child in the way he should go and when they're old they won't depart from it.” This doesn’t mean having your child in “church” 24:7 is going to teach them God’s ways. YOU have to teach them from the word of God and be their example.

Feed Them God's Word 

Teach them the Ten Commandments. Read the bible to them and explain the stories you read. The bible says, "The word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires" (Hebrews 4:12). The word of God is alive! When you read it, speak it and believe it, it changes your life and the way you think. It will do the same for your children. When those seeds of truth are constantly being planted in your child's heart and mind, they will be begin to take root and grow and cause your child to make right choices according to the word of God. 

Often tell your children you love them, hug them, kiss them, and give them your undivided attention. Brag on them, encourage them when they're down, speak life into them and spend quality time with them. It makes such a difference in their little lives. Create a healthy balance of spirituality, education, after school activities and family fun time in their life. As guardians we want to develop well rounded leaders and warriors who can walk amongst the wickedness in the world and not be affected by it. Our children must walk in the purpose for which they were created.

Tools and Resources

Here are some of the resources and teaching tools I’ve found helpful on this journey to teaching my children God’s ways (click on picture):

The Preschooler's Bible age 3-5: Perfect for introducing children to the biblical characters.

Children's Picture Bible age 5-9: I absolutely love this bible. I highly recommend it.

NIV Adventure Bible age 9-12: This bible is just OK. The print is to small and does not have the red letter print.

Keys for Kids online devotions and more, all ages: My kids and I read and listen to devotion every morning as I drive them to school. Keys for kids also has a children's game site with fun activities and bible trivia. It's really cute. www.Itoadu.com  



30 October 2014

The Highway of Holiness

"A highway will be there, a roadway, And it will be called the Highway of Holiness. The unclean will not travel on it, But it will be for him who walks that way, And fools will not wander on it."
- Isaiah 35:8

In Leviticus 11:44, God said "You must be holy because I am holy" (1 Peter 1:16). I believe Christians have lost their influence in the world because they represent Jesus very poorly. Most Christians don't walk in the power and authority that Christ gave because holiness is no longer being taught as "the way" to live. Instead, Christians abuse the freedom they have in Christ making it difficult to distinguish the believer from the non-believer. If you walk, talk, and act like the world - you're not going to win anybody to Christ. Christians are supposed to be salt and light in this dark world. We should be setting a standard of living in the earth that makes non-believers envious to the point of desiring the joy and hope we have in Christ. 

In my opinion, the churches today are partially responsible for the people of God lacking holiness. My husband says most churches look and act like a circus. It's all entertainment. The churches are trying to appeal to the non-believer by incorporating "things" that will attract them. I don't have a problem with getting a little creative. It becomes a problem when churches compromise on the ways of God and the message of the bible gets watered down so that people are not offended or turned off. People are leaving church services pumped up from the entertainment, but they're lacking a Holy Spirit conviction and a challenge to change or Come Up Higher in the things of God. In other words, they leave the same way they came - broken, powerless or stagnant in their walk with God.

As a Christian YOU are responsible for "Walking out your salvation with fear and trembling" (Philippians 2:12). Basically, you should know what pleases God and what He requires of you. What places are you frequenting that promote a godless atmosphere? What inappropriate television programs are you watching that consume your time? What kind of relationships are you nurturing that are unhealthy and displeasing to God? Stop tolerating and accepting the sins the world promotes. Stop being a part of it. Stop saying, "A little bit of this is ok" or "As long as I don't do too much of that it'll be fine because I have freedom in Christ." Yes, the bible says "All things are permissible. It also adds, "But not everything is beneficial." (1 Corinthians 10:23). 

Very few men and women of God today, operate in the power of the Almighty God. Don't you want to see answered prayer, people delivered from demonic oppression, people healed from terminal illnesses, nations turning their hearts back to God? These difficult requests require God's involvement. The key to seeing a phenomenal mighty move of God is holiness. Holiness is striving to have clean hands and a pure heart. Holiness is walking in obedience to God's commands. Holiness is how you live your life for God in the public eye and behind closed doors. It's not easy walking the narrow highway of holiness, but it can be rewarding. 

It starts with a decision to do it! Then it takes discipline. You will fall off of that narrow road, but you must quickly get up and keep pressing forward. We are living in dark times. Our country is falling apart and our families are experiencing spiritual attacks. As the people of God we have to get back to holiness, which is a standard of living that pleases God. When we do, He will heal our land and He will move on your behalf in ways you cannot imagine. Read the bible and know the word of God for yourself. Start walking on The Highway of Holiness.